Have you ever had one of those days where you're just overwhelmed with your to do's?
You get me, right? Those days where your to do list is never-ending, there aren't enough check marks on it, and there's no end in sight. It's all good stuff, but it's just so much stuff. You're wondering why you committed to so many - too many - things and you're feeling defeated.
If you're a mom, add in the fact that, of all the days, your kiddos just really need you today, like a lot, like more than usual, and you've just about had it with all of your responsibilities.
"Please don't even ask me one more question or require me to think about anything else, because I just don't have the capacity right now."
Have you been there? If you have, you're not alone.
You know what I've noticed? I've noticed that I do this to myself. It's taken me a LONG time to come to this conclusion, but I'm certain it's the case. And in all fairness, I don't do this to myself, knowing that I'll have days like this, but I do it to myself by saying YES to far too many things. And guess what...
When we say YES to one thing, we say NO to something else.
I say yes to a lot of really awesome things. I say yes to things I love to do (and sometimes I say yes to things I don't really *want* to do, but feel obligated to do). And you know what? I've always been a yes girl. I like doing things, helping with projects, taking the lead, getting stuff done. And if you're a yes girl, you know that means that our schedules fill up very quickly. Are you with me?
When we say YES to one thing... you know the rest.
You know what else I've learned lately? Just because something is good, doesn't mean it's good for me *right now*. And it has to be true, because saying yes to alllll of the good things is simply too much. And you know who suffers when there's too much on my plate? I do. My kids do. My husband does. My time with God does. And girls, those are the most important things in our lives, not the things that should be suffering.
Truth is, when we say yes to too many things, we miss the best things. Our patience is tested. Our marriages start to crumble. Our kids act out. Our homes aren't well kept. Dinner is definitely not on the table (and everyone's starving). Life just doesn't feel peaceful, and we wonder why.
So what can we do?
Take a moment to evaluate your day, your schedule, your responsibilities. What are you saying yes to that, although it may be good, isn't the best for you right now? Then, think about the things you're missing out on because of those extra yes's. Talk to God about which things you should be saying YES to, and which things you should be saying NO to. He'll lead you if you'll let Him.
Say it with me girls... NOPE.
It's something we need to practice saying, so that we can say yes to the things that matter the very most. Because someday we'll look back and be really, truly thankful we did.
Don't feel strong enough? Don't worry. He is.
"Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” (Matt. 11:29–30)
"You will keep him in perfect peace,
Whose mind is stayed on You,
Because he trusts in You." (Isaiah 26:3)